Adele has given us the soundtrack to one of the greatest breakup songs of our time. From “Someone Like You” to “Send My Love (To Your New Lover),” she lets us tap into the pain of lost love. Outside the recording studio and off stage, the Grammy Award winner maintains honesty about past relationships — with lovers and with herself. Lately, he’s focused on that latter relationship.
After years without treatment, Adele says she decided to start again. “I stopped taking responsibility for my own behavior and the things I said,” he said on stage at his Vegas residency show on Dec. 9, Buzzfeed News reported. “But now I do it because I want to make sure I’m putting myself first every week to make sure I can give you everything.”
Most of his recent sessions focused on his anxiety about performing live. “I’ve always been very emotional. I love making music, but there’s something about live shows that really scares me and fills me with dread,” Adele said during her Vegas show. She admits that perfectionism is a big driver of that anxiety. “I always put a lot of pressure on myself to have everything perfect and perfect,” she said. “Obviously, this show has to be perfect, so I’m delaying it again.”
Shortly after getting married in 2018, she began treatment after separating from husband Simon Konecki. At the height of their divorce she saw her therapist up to five times a day. “Whether you’re married or not, breaking up a relationship is very difficult and it’s very traumatic,” he added.
She opened up about her marriage to Vogue in an interview last year, saying she wasn’t happy and felt like she was going through the motions. “Neither of us did anything wrong. Neither of us hurt each other or anything like that. It’s not okay with me anymore. I don’t want to end up like a lot of people I know. I don’t. Miserable, but I would have been miserable if I hadn’t put myself first.”
Adele and Konecki share a 10-year-old son, Angelo, which caused a lot of guilt during the divorce. “It made him very unhappy at times. It was a real wound for me that I don’t know if I’ll ever heal,” she told Vogue.
Once again, Adele proves that vulnerability is a strength. After telling a Vegas audience about her concerns, she apologized for the ups and downs of her fandom, including canceling her original residency in January. “I’m a man, and that’s why those shows have to be canceled. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.” “Keep your friends close to you because they are better than any man and better than any woman. Your friends last a lifetime.”
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